Penny, I am so so sorry to read about your sitch. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through.
Please give yourself a big pat on the back for keeping a house going with two young kids, one on the way with all this emotional upset.
Thank you!
I would suggest even if it takes SUPERHUMAN strength DO NOT look at his FB profile. In the past month or so my H and his GF has taken to "checking in" where ever they're at: coffee shops, restaurants, museums, etc. I think it's childish and I have my own opinion on why the GF/OW do it, but that's beside the point. Stop looking. It's only hurting you. I also told my friends and family members when they brought it up that I don't want to know. So they don't talk about it with me.
I looked up his profile because I was suspicious of ever dwindling numbers in friends on his old profile. His new profile is set to public. If I hadn't have found it I wouldn't have the evidence that he was with an OW. Up to that point he claimed he was staying with a "male" friend! The OW I had already been suspicious about but I got thrown off track because she says on her status she lives hundreds of miles away from where he was actually staying. Yeah he keeps trying to rub my nose in it with all the photo's and comments. He is being very careful to show me what he is doing, but not allowing me to respond. But if he remembered the true me at all and not the persona of me he has created in his mind, he would remember I wouldn't react to it anyway! I haven't looked at it for a while and I make no comment about anything whether it's FB or him continually texting OW in my presence. The only time I reacted was when he put our kids photo out to public view. I asked him nicely to set it to friends only, for simple internet security protect the kids. But clearly he is not going to respect my requests, even in the interests of the children who are my absolute concern.
So if I'm right he's spending some nights at home and some nights out and you never really know when? That's tough I don't know what to say about that.
