My Marriage

[25yearsmlc]

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did You tell your son he was "terrible @ baseball"? Just curious. It's a weird thing for your w to say and since she said it quietly it makes even less sense for her to make it up (as no public shaming was intended) But still possible...


What's up with that? It's so important that she see you as THE BEST DAD possible now. More than ever. It's a turn on, emotionally and it's crucial that your son knows how affirming you feel about him. (So it's not just about HER...on the contrary it's for your son and YOU first...then her, we can hope).

BTW I don't think women are unmoved by loving interactions between their children and their fathers, at all...

But I fear he might even take some of the blame for the problems.

Be clear with him about how important he is to you, now more than ever.

((( )))

[MrD]

ps

did You tell your son he was "terrible @ baseball"? Just curious. It's a weird thing for your w to say and since she said it quietly it makes even less sense for her to make it up (as no public shaming was intended) But still possible...

Later yesterday evening I did ask S7 if I ever told him I said "have I ever said like you were a teribble football player?" and he said calmly, no

I think W said it quietly because S7 might have been in the kitchen eating breakfast at the time.


What's up with that? It's so important that she see you as THE BEST DAD possible now. More than ever. It's a turn on, emotionally and it's crucial that your son knows how affirming you feel about him. (So it's not just about HER...on the contrary it's for your son and YOU first...then her, we can hope).
Yes I agree, But at first when I was persuing W after the bomb, all focus was on her.


BTW I don't think women are unmoved by loving interactions between their children and their fathers, at all...

But I fear he might even take some of the blame for the problems.

Be clear with him about how important he is to you, now more than ever.

((( )))

Thanks for the hugs!

[MrD]

25yearsmlc posted,

What's up with that? It's so important that she see you as THE BEST DAD possible now. More than ever. It's a turn on, emotionally and it's crucial that your son knows how affirming you feel about him. (So it's not just about HER...on the contrary it's for your son and YOU first...then her, we can hope).


Couple of things going on here now. I've noticed that the W & OM for the recent last week have stopped physicaly seeing each other. I'm not sure what's going on but I'm still persuing getting a new job, my own bank account and my own place to move(still in the area).
But a couple of things I need to work out is how to support the S7 & S12 as for now will stay in the current house with the W. But I will not support her at all( not enough money ).
Should I stop W medical insurance? And how much is needed to support the two boys?
Next question I have is, when finding a town home to rent. What kind of lease agreement should I look for since this is a non-legal seperation?

[MrD]

I keep pressing the "Submit" button too early and I can't edit as it states the allowed time has expired. What's up with that?
Even if it's done within a minute.

But any ways I noticed also that for the last few days W has stopped her morning exercise routine and not dressed up that much.
And also instead of going out yesterday for my family visit for fathersday, W hung out and talked with my family and went with us to dinner last night. Originaly W said she didn't want to be around while my family visited????
I'm still bothered by knowing if S7 was concieved outside of our M. It doesn't make a difference now but I'm courious if that's maybe why she feels like she needs to "run away"?

[MrD]

Real quick here before I get some rest before the new job interview. I mentioned that I'd be gone this afternoon to the W and she stated back she was going to some half parenting classes at another church one of her friends goes to this week also.
Another intresting statement......

[MrD]

I had a good rest but bothered with a bad dream I remember having many years ago. It involves a large fortres where there are many different tasks and battles in lots of different rooms but in the end I'm rushing down a spiral staircase to get out and the building explodes.
Weird Huh.....
Anyway getting ready for a new step in my life and thought I'd start a new thread called GridLock.
I still need some answers or advice here on this last page.

[MrD]

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