Well done our your daughter graduating high school. What you will probably get at some point from xh is that you have a rpoblem with him having an OW. Nothing to do with him.

I the cottage cheese of their brain they do think it should be all OK instead of the terrible mess it has become.

As I have detached totally from my xh, when he wants to be in contact [for a good while he just ran] what I am now getting from him is that I can't cope with him having other relationships. It is never ever anything they might have done.