Wow JKS, that's a wild story -- I didn't think things like that really happened! He must have been pretty smooth to coax you out of your house at 11:30 at night to meet him, good for you for putting the brakes on. W told me she used to put herself in those situations when she was in her 20's and would also give in because it seemed easier than making a scene. I don't get that.

From the tone of your post it does seem you're doing better, you seem to have found much more calm and peace. I realize it is still terribly terribly hard, but I really think you're doing great!

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015