I'm doing well, snodderly. I continue to feel peaceful. Today has been hard for my boys. A year ago we had planned to spend Father's Day at the US Open (We live nearby and are huge golf fans. My oldest plays competitively on several junior tours and has played at the Olympic Club.) as we have done several times in the past. It's painful remembering how happy we were. Instead, we're watching the tournament on tv and are making the most of the day. The boys really do understand what has happened to their dad. They know he didn't leave because of them or me. Leaving was his choice. They know he is depressed and isn't working on his real issues. I know not everyone would agree with my decision to share information with the boys, but because I have they, like me, feel love and compassion for a hurting person. I believe because they understand they will be able to forgive their dad should he ever want to get help and make amends.
hrm134, I'm so glad that the article was helpful. It's one of the better ones that I have read. I seem to need constant reminders (thank you, snodderly!) that this is not about me (although I am not blameless) or the marriage, but my H's painful past. It is incredibly hard to stifle my need to fix him, but the knowledge I gain is for me and others that are on the same journey. All we can do is pray for patience and ask that God continue to work on our WS's. We have to go on, though so very hard.
