He said to smile and upbeat. I've been trying. But it's so difficult when he won't even look or talk to me. It seems like a lot of spouses are at least talking to one another. I avoid being home right now because of all of the tension.
Not true. My h would speak to me with venom in his tone. I avoided conversation with him and tried to remain upbeat (hard to do, I know). I had the thought of "it's his proble, not mine" rolling through my head. It was verrrry difficult to be cut out like that. You remind me so much of me, so I hope you don't mind me telling you: I wanted to cry because of the silence or the hatred (and slipped a few times, mind you). Eventually, I stopped caring as much (practice makes perfect!) and I've been so much less stressed because of it. It is your choice how you want to present yourself to the world. Strong, upbeat, a fighter? Confident? Or one who will be afraid of his reaction?
It's his problem. His anger, his reactions. You can't control that. There is absolutely NOTHING you can do to change him, or his mind. Only he will do that. You smile, keep doing all those wonderful things you listed above. When it's tough for you and you feel like you are flailing, failing, or falling, come post instead.
Me& h + S M: 13 t: 14
H moved 2/12. Own apt 05/12, EAs, PAs, gfriends, oh my! I'm done. 12/12
"I get knocked down, but I get up again.. you're never gonna keep me down" Chumbawumba
