dscl- I can say listen to 25 because she is right. I have heard from me H now that he is back all of those regrets she listed. The shame and embarresment of what H did. Not being able to look at himself in the mirror. H said after about a month he could no longer lie to himself by believing I me-his wife- was the problem. He said he was still unhappy and I wasn't around. THat was a big wake up. Hang it there. Finally, it was close to the end I realized I would be okay. Sad that my marriage ended. Sad for my kids. But, I did everything possible to R and if H didn't then that was his loss. I could hold my head high that not one stone was left unturned. He couldn't do the same. We are R. We share many laughs now. Life is good. But, I also feel good about who I have become. THe kind of parent I am and the wife I work at being. I can only change me. It took me a lot of years to figure that out!!
I have heard from me H now that he is back all of those regrets she listed. The shame and embarresment of what H did. Not being able to look at himself in the mirror.