Sometimes I think there's uncomfort as in being nervous about going to an exercise class in a place you've never been and there's no one there and there's uncomfort where you're putting yourself in a very emotional setting that you might not be ready for.
Don't make yourself into a martyr by saying that you are going to do something because you feel like you have to face the uncomfortable thing.
A therapist who is not my IC told me to start learning a new language or something left brain related during the time that H was living here but dating and I was having panic attacks. And I said but I thought that's escaping and I should deal with all this and she said you can't deal with anything right now...your body is shutting down.
Take everyone else of the equation. You have been crying all morning and you have a sinus infection. You don't HAVE to go.
You know how like we detach from our S's with NC first so that then we're around them we can be detached more? I think that way about the family. Maybe you're not detached enough from them to be in that setting.
Big Hugs. But yes, make you a priority. Put you first. It's father's day there is absolutely nothing wrong with saying S and H have your day together, this tooth is making me ill I'm going to take a long bath/watch a movie/sleep.
