WHG: And so we file...

[workinghardguy]

CT I think you're pretty accurate there. That's been much of the dynamic over the years as well. Breaking that dynamic is hard.

Things have been better since having her pick the kids up here. I think it's that she's not home and can't just relax, and after 13 hours of work/travel you're ready for that. So she's eager to get home.

We've had limited interaction. When we do it's still positive and cordial, whatever that means. Yesterday morning I had to call her and wake her up (I did wait until 9am). Our volunteer group is on alert to help with a search for a missing aircraft and I needed to know if SS could go. Practice search missions are one thing, but real ones involve potential dead bodies and the like so I wanted to make sure she was on-board. She agreed to it so we hung up.

About 20 minutes later she called to say that she had arranged child care for the nights of the mission if I get activated. I had already taken care of that, but I thought it was nice of her to do.

Anyway, I've kept this weekend quiet trying to get caught up on projects that I'm way behind on. S is with my W this weekend which is a bit of downer being Father's Day weekend and all. But we got to spend all day Friday together and today I am picking him up after lunch to go to a play together and dinner.

On Friday S had a little meltdown talking about how he hates mommy for the divorce. We talked it out but I can see the dichotomy starting in his little head. "I hate mommy, I love mommy"... it's all so confusing for a six year old. He hasn't shown any behavior symptoms and appears to be handling it. Just hard to watch your kids hurt. When I asked him why he thinks mommy asked for the divorce he says that's what his sister told him.

Well... she's right so it's hard to stay the party line of equal responsibility, but I try.