Hi IB, the term "soulmates" can be tricky. I have a book called The One by kathy freston. She talks about relationships and how we're consistently trying to find our soulmate, but what we perceive a soul mate to be and what it really may be are two different things.
See we tend to think our soul mates are the absolute one and only, having everyting in common, ultimately compatibility, two peas in a pod, yada yada yada, you get my point. But the other states that believe it or not we can have one or more soulmate and what they're really here for is our growth and learning. If I remember right the most intense relationships we have are the biggest lessons, and are very well our soulmates.
I've also read that soul mates techinically are twin souls. One incarnates to earth to live a human life, and the other soul remains on the Other side in heaven.
Honestly, I've read alot of Sylvia Browne and some other authors in regards to life after physical death and life really in heaven. According to Sylvia Browne before we incarnate we choose important people to come into our lives as we're teachers to one another. We also have spirit guides and of course angels that protect us. People come into our lives for a reason and we never know it.
So to answer your question yes your X can be your soul mate, and you his. If you think about the journey's we've been on and have traveled due to being LBs's WAS, MLCers, you name it, look at the lessons put right before us. I have no doubt in my mind my X is my soul mate. Everything we've actually been through together, pushed me to learn about myself and it still does. He's been a teacher to me, and me to him. Plus we have our kids together too.
