S got home said he had good time. so I happy that they spent some time together.
S also shows me some stuff from the speciality food market. And I was like oh cool you guys went there?
I texted H (after Vera said it would be to encourage them spending time together) and said S will never say it but I know he had enjoyed spending time with you.
H said I did too, I will make more of an effort to do that more often. You did have a gift from him for in the morning right?
And I said oh I didn't know it was a gift he just said he'd bought it and then H said that cost me a lot of money sneaky kid. I said I'm confused you bought it for me as a gift? well thank you we will enjoy it for breakfast.
So the man compliments me loads and tries to "take care of me" and buys me breakfast. (but of course goes home to his GF)
I just keep thinking that if I was the GF this behaviour would be unacceptable or just red flags. He may be confused on some level about his feelings for me, but I think that by rushing into this relationship he keeps himself from addressing them. And if things keep ticking over in that relationship he's never going to.
I kind of see it like he's in this brand new model home and it's shiny and clean and everything works and it's easy. And then there's this other house that he used to live in that's like a massive old mansion and it's gorgeous and unique but requires a lot of work and upkeep. He has to decide if he wants to take the easy road. He has a pattern of doing that.
