I'm sorry you are feeling so badly, that sux. I do believe that you and H are just missing each other with your good intentions. You ironed his shirts but ended with a comment he perceived as fighting words. He tried to clean the deck for you but screwed it up. At least its mutual effort!
Remember a few days ago you were upset that he wouldn't be a man and take initiative to fix the yard lights and sprinklers? Well this time he DID take initiative to help you -- that's progress! Carb cleaner is nasty stuff. When I make a mistake like that I get really angry with myself. When W makes a mistake like that, I let it go. It wasn't my mistake, and she didn't do it TO me, even though I may have to do some work as a result. All you can do is shrug and carry on when that happens.
Have you tried a DB telephone coach? They might be able to help.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
