Hello Everyone, Been reading for awhile and now deciding to post. Glad that this is here for me. Been separated from W for 2 1/2 months. We have 1 D that is 7. We are splitting time at our house. She stays at her dads three nights a week and I stay at my brothers 4. Our daughter stays home the whole time. Hopefully providing her some security through all of this. I am the one that messed up. I did not cheat but she says that what I did was just as bad. Plus she says that I have had some anger & control issues. I understand her anger but not to the point of wanting D. All of this has gotten me to change. I am seeing a counseler and reading. I have just started DR. The detaching is hard. My problem with that is I am trying to build her trust back so I am trying to show her that I am dependable and trustworthy. We have taken two vacations as a family in this time. One suggested by her the next by me. First one was seperate rooms the second was a suite where I slept on the couch. The second one was the better trip. We all had a blast. We have not argued since Memorial Day. I have changed my attitude from down to upbeat. I have not brought up our R at all. She told me tonight that she won't be seeing me much this weekend because she is going to try and not spend much time together. I told her ok and just asked her when I would see my D. It's tough. I am now trying to let my actions speak for me and give her the space she is asking for. My goal is to have a loving family back under one roof.
