Thank your MIL for all of her help but that due to circumstances of your W's A, you cannot live like this.
"I also need to ask W if she wants a seperation or just go ahead w/the big D."
Just go for the separation yourself. Don't ask. Tell her you are separating because you refuse to be treated that way and then tell her what's going to happen. Start putting your foot down. Don't ask.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
