Put another way, as much as you're hurting you can't look to your wife to soothe and comfort you right now. That's going to have to come from within yourself, and from friends and family.
It's hard, I know.
Starsky
It's so hard it's nearly impossible! I'm just trying to give an idea how tough it was, to look at and communicate with someone who usedd to be emotionally supportive - who is now somewhere else. She's gone, for now, and maybe for ever.
If I was to backtrack through my situatoin, I would have minimized commmunication and contact while the affair was going on. Hell tell her, if she' sgoing to carry on then go live with the other guy. It's not for you to move out of you guys place because she's cheating.
I personally, also after some amount of time if I could go back would have gotten a girlfriend. Find a girlfriend whose not trying to take from you, that you nejoy spending time with. you can tie your feelings of emotional dependancy, pleasure, etc onto her.
Also GAL, means most of the life you had with her, you have to reestablish outside of her. It's tough, but if you don't do it, you will be hurting pretty badly.
All of this is unnecessarily tough to do, and you are paying because SHE cheated. I'd be pretty angry at myself for chosing her, and angry at her for triyng to say "you are a nice person". That's some BS.
