Stand up. Poor and tired, but more than this.

[LIO]

This really is like a science experiment. When I do x then y happens. If y is a bad reaction then don't do x! i.e. When I call and H is tired, he will bring up paperwork when I press conversation. So don't press conversation. Noted.

Just clarifying this. In no way am I saying that in order to appease H, I will always do what he wants. That will make me resentful for sure. I'm not resentful. I think that what's going on is that I am not respecting lines of when someone is tired, hungry, or just doesn't want to talk. And I am bored with the same complaints/conversation and no progress. It reminds me of my former boyfriend who is a professional victim. I need to start practicing how to 'hear' someone and not take action on it. Maybe like what I just used this week on former friend:) "Oh yeah, not having a job would be difficult. What do you intend to do to change that?"

Or regarding the carpet cleaning: "Yes, I noticed the smell too. What do you think you could do about that?" instead of me offering a solution for me to take care of it, or saying to hire someone.


I love this DB'ing because it really ISN'T about H. It's about me being a better person all around, including how I communicate, delegate, rediscover what I want in life, and setting my goals and taking steps to doing them. It makes me feel more confident overall!