We lost the spark. How do I live with this guilt?

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SD: I didn't see this, but what does your H think about your male friend? You will do what you need to do, but I can only say from my perspective, I was not happy when H was at a female's house - no matter if they were *friends* or not. It doesn't send a good message to me personally. I also know when I had a male friend that H was silently jealous (which I found out later). You know your situation better.

Don't talk to him if it's going to make you emotional. It took me about 2 months for me to not cry/plead/beg, and now I can look at him and talk to him without me taking on his emotions. (It took me longer than it would have had I read the Codependent No More book earlier!)

Please get the Codependent No More book this weekend and read it and do the exercises! It was such an eye opener for me. Your posts sound so much like me in the beginning. Just breathe, line up your hobbies, start plans on going out to do them, and let him have a temper tantrum. You are not the cause of his emotions - and don't let him be the cause of yours. You can't fix it.