Update. W has her apartment and had furniture delivered today. She was at the house last night watching the B Ball game with son and I. Was a good night. I felt just like what I used to think was a normal night. When we went to bed (still sleep in the same bed) we were still normal acting. I did say, "you know, you moving out is going to be a difficult time, for a while". As we were laying there, she put her hand on my chest and said "you're a good person" and I didn't respond. She later moved over and said she would like to snuggle if that was ok. We spent a restless night just kind of touching and holding each other. At one point, I said "I just want you to know I love you." When she started to say something, I told her I wasn't looking for a response, just wanted her to know. She said OK. This morning, I said I wanted lay there five more minutes as it may be the last time. She said she was probably going to spend the night one more night until her stuff is set up.
My son and I are leaving town for the weekend early tomorrow morning to get away while she moves her clothes.
Please interpret this chaos for me.....
I can't/won't interpret your wife's behavior, because -- as 25 says -- you can't deciper the indecipherable. She's confused.
But I will interpret yours: I can almost assure you, that if your wife is still currently carrying on an emotional affair with this guy, and you know, and she KNOWS that you know . . . and you ask her to snuggle with her "five more minutes as it may be the last time" and tell her "I love you," etc.???
I can assure you that she finds that weak, and unattractive.
A better thing to have said would have been "As I wouldn't have wished this on us, I realize now that I'm going to be okay," and sound upbeat; strong.
