I think the first letter is mostly how she feels about you. She spent time and energy on it, and it was probably b/c she knew you would be hurt by the hearing and that you were confused and didn't know of any positive feelings she had...
THEN YOU HAD THE HEARING..
the 2nd letter was her reaction to the hearing, where she did not get what she expected. I don't know how much of a disparity there was between her expectations and what she got, but the bigger it was, the angrier she must have felt.
Who gets the to wear the target for her anger? You...
What "leverage" did she have?
To tell you she would not want to reconcile. That's her lashing out at you. She's not indifferent.
So for now, ignore both letters. OR if need be, read the nice one and ignore the second one,
b/c clearly the 2nd one, an email sent right after the hearing, was not given the same thought the first was.
Give her time and show her the same NEW you that you've been showing.
What other option do you really have?
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