We lost the spark. How do I live with this guilt?

[MrBond]

"DBing isn't supposed to make them ANGRIER, is it?!?"

Let me put it to you this way. He's mad when you're there. He's mad when you're not. He's mad that you want to stay married. He's mad when you're around. But you THINK he's going to be mad when you're out.

He's going to be mad no matter what you do. But you know what? The anger is within himself. He's going to be mad but doesn't want to look inside. He thinks it's all coming from an external source and that source is you.

If he does get mad, you tell him straight up. "You say you don't want to be married. You say that you don't want me. So you have no right to be mad at me. You have alot of things to work out that are within yourself. I don't make you angry. YOU make yourself angry."