I wish I could help more. I still wash STBXH's dishes, not his laundry, though. I buy his food. He earns all the money, so I am lucky he hasn't messed with that.
This is going to take a lot of patience. And with the baby anyday now, you will have your hands full. I would say to remind him you need help right now, not more work.
Hang in there and good luck with baby!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!