M: look, you've been gone out of here for one month now. If you aren't happy, if you are having a hard time financially, emotionally, or whatever, that is all you. I have no control over anything you are doing. It's all your choices. If it were my choice I'd tell you to get your (self censored) home as I've got a bed upstairs that has your side on it. But I don't control that. If you didn't want to pay your rent, then don't pay it. If you do, then do. Your choices. You want to come home, then come home, you don't then don't. Figure it out! I am sorry if you are struggling. It's hard sometimes, and sometimes its not. I'm sure you will get through and find where you want to be... Wherever that is.
I get it's his struggle. I just don't need it to be mine anymore. I feel like I'm missing my compassion chip now,.
Here's my 2 cents. Disclaimer: I still don't know what I'm doing so take this with a grain of salt.
My first thought is...you tell him sister! LOL I swear what you said is what I sometimes feel like telling my H.
But...I think you let your feelings about your whole sitch get in the way. To him your response probably sounded resentful (okay, so you proably are, but showing him that isn't going to get you anywhere). It definitely shows that you are still reacting to him emotionally.
Why does he want you to do the paperwork? That's just weird. I haven't gotten to this stage yet so hopefully some of the other folks here can help you with a response for future conversations.
