You're right, I think I am healing slowly but surely, each day gets easier than the last. I can say I have stopped the pursuit 100% at this point. Two weeks is a record and I'm going to keep it going, although it's very hurtful to know she doesn't give two flips about me at this point. Her needy "touch and go" got me spun up but I'm over that now. I suspect if I hear from her again it will be because she is in a bind somehow, and I think I'll pass and let her figure it out on her own next time.
You're right I continue to ride the safety/stability/financial security platform, on my list of things to work on. :-)
I really did do the end of school prize for the kids to try and make them happy, it's not like that's the first time I did that so I hope she doesn't perceive it as pursuit. When I look back I really wasn't bad stepdad. Not the touchy/feely throw them in the air type but aside from that I did/continue to do right by them. Sunday will be a trigger day, obviously I have no expectations and I shouldn't, since I know there will also be crickets on that day... lol Let's see, my birthday, nothing, haven't seen her in 4 months or heard from her in two weeks, fathers day will be nothing... I think I'm starting to get the hint here! lol
Looking forward to a picture perfect GAL weekend and I hope you all are too, good luck to all in your respective sitch's!
me 38 W 30 T 3 M in 05/2010 Separated 08/2011 Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8 I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5 Anxiously waiting on the judge!
