He avoided conflict for years until he just couldn't take it and BAM-he's done. Yes, there were little signs along the way but, I was giving off little signs too. When you're maintaining a household, raising 2 kids, taking care of a dying mother, each working, building a house, who notices little signs?
Wow, this describes my situation to a "T." In a way, it's like you almost feel immune to the possibility of D when you're in the thick of it. Just knowing that times are hard right now and we'll get through it.
Well, I guess we're never immune to it. Life is fragile. Relationships are fragile and taking mine for granted was my biggest mistake. Never again.
In fact, my brother and his W, through their bad behavior, remind me of how sad it is to take each other for granted. They constantly talk to down to each other and complain to each other. I never want to have a R like that again. It's so important to show the person you love the most, the simplest acts of love. Speaking to each other in a loving way, complimenting each other, asking each other how you can help one another. I get this now.
If you were to ask 100 people to describe my H, they would say "He's just the type of guy you can tell anything to." I know a lot of people look up to him because of his goodness. I hope, like you, Labug, that he's growing from this experience just as much as I am. Only time will tell.
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.
