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25yearsmlc I gave a short reply to this but believe it deserves more.

why are you not in the same bedroom? Do you both sleep in separate rooms normally? WHY? Wow that's a huge red flag to me.

Her coming over is completely new this week, before this she was out of the house for more than a month. When I woke up she was in the guest room.

Make no mistake. You forced her to choose b/c YOU could not handle any delay or uncertainty (which she has been living with for some time.)

Agreed, I guess I was/am in a fog myself and just wanted this to end as soon as possible, I see now hat this is a process that will take time.

Man you need to own a lot more of this situation b/c there's no way you are committed to change or working on the marriage if you are quitting this fast.

I have and I've told her so. And while I hurt because she has not done the same, or that fact that she is trying to blame me for the A, I have not told her I feel she should own her faults in our R also because. I've do believe I mad mistakes, but I can't accept that it gives her the justification to have an affair.

I've have begun to see (slowly) that I can't change how she thinks. I have to concern myself with my issues and work on fixing me. If she sees these and wants to begin on working on us, then great, if not, I know that this process will makes me a better man.