I'm there now Labug -- "she seems happy, but I wonder what she might be keeping from me." Well put. I believe they keep things from us because telling us isn't "safe". Making it safe is the challenge for us.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015