ah, yes. Dance recital... smile Yeah, I don't care how redneck or manly a guy is, you just do that stuff for your girl... and also yes, hockey is a huge commitment. There is no way your H should have signed YOU up for that. It's good you are enjoying it.

My W did a lot of volunteering of my time during our M. It did bother me, but the reality was that I got to spend some really great time with my kids. I do agree with your thought about wondering if they subconsciously do that to control our time and where abouts. My W was known to be insecure and somewhat jealous. She really did not like if she did not know where I was or if I was unavailable and not answering my phone when I was away.

As far as D14, for sure it's age. I do know that the two of us have a good relationship and bond. My W doesn't have a lot of boundaries with D14 so D14 mostly does what ever she wants when ever she wants, when she's with her mom. I can be a push over as well, but I live far enough away from where her friends are AND in the sticks, that I think D14 feels trapped a bit out here.

Anyhow, that's good you are mindful of your kids time with their dad. As far as D's time with your H, you might suggest and encourage it to your D, but in the end she may become resentful of YOU if you send her away with her dad. As she gets older, the law will allow her to choose where she wants to be, right now at her age she is obligated to any parental agreement schedule. I hope she knows that. All you can do is be there for the kids when and as they need it.

You sound like you're in a good place regarding that, other than this recital issue.