My D14 is different. She avoids both of us for the most part. Although there is a relationship between D14 and my W that extends longer than I've known the two. So some of D14's behaviour would be loyalty to her mom over me.
In that regard, I do what I can to let her know I'm available and she is welcome to be with me, but I will not be a sugar daddy to her, which she "tried" at the beginning.
D9 OTOH basically wants to do everything with me. From ice fishing and building snow forts, to quading, to going to the gym... what ever I am doing, she wants to do... I like to believe it's because when we are together, I make it a huge point of being connected and "with" her...
Your H may loose that... it sure sounds like it... Now I WOULD do the prince thing with D9... but thankfully I don't have to. The only thing is, I'm being very clear with my W that my W DOES NOT book things for D9 that interfere with my time with her...
I'm sure D9 is wanting to go to dance because it was offered as an option for her. I would not book scuba lessons for D9 that interfered with D9's time with her mom, for example. And my W does not book "play dates" for D9 when it is my time. All requests for my time must run through me.
Anyhow, a bit of a tangent. Just saying that for next season, you might want D9 to talk to her dad about activities she wants to do, when it is her time with him.
