Oh! I remember now what I was wanting to ask others here in the forums! When I was talking about the "script" that MLC-ers all seem to follow, more or less, when starting into MLC, I was curious about the next phase.

My W seems more energized now that she's got a place and she's getting it ready, fixing it up a bit before moving her stuff out of our house. She keeps talking to the boys about how "everything's going to be fine" and "She's not as bad as they think she is". She also insists that we're going to be good friends because we don't hate each other like their friends who's parents are divorced.

Everything is falling into place for her now that she can finally move out from "under my shadow". I say that because she's expressed how much she hates feeling beneath me and now that she's moving out she's full of life.

My question then is this -> Is this similar to what its been like for other spouses left behind?

If our stories are so similar going into MLC, what about the part where the MLC-er moves out? Do they project a life of feeling on top of the world?

I know I'm over analyzing and it's not helping me get over my feelings for her, but it seems like if there's a script being followed, I'd sure like to 'some' idea about what to expect.

And for those of you that have offered helpful suggestions on the GAL thing, I'm happy to report I found a group on the meetup site that gets together on weekend mornings for fitness walks. It's not much for my pace, but everyone I've seen on the group site talks about wanting to socialize more than they do so I figure it's an idea worth its weight in gold and worth checking out. Thanks again for the heads up on that.