[quote=shockeddad]Vorlon and 25, great post. I was having a bit of a rough day, now I feel better. dscl, hang in there buddy. I'm going threw almost the samething. A big problem I have right now is trying to figure out if her actions are because of my detaching and changes or if she thinks I'm fine with the thought od the big D. [/quote]
A common misconception. Please don't believe for a minute she thinks you suddenly completely changed and are "fine" with divorce.
But even if she did, SO WHAT? Let her wonder if maybe you are not going to fall apart needing her and curling up into a fetal position. She won't feel more justified in leaving you if you appear strong. It's just the opposite.
Put it this way. Your 2 options are to 1) show your pain and neediness, which does NOT WORK-
or to
2) GAL, act as if you have something to offer the world and you look forward to being back in it.
Neither may work to get her back - but which do you believe is more attractive?
More appealing? More pleasant to be around??
Hope I've made the point.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
