We lost the spark. How do I live with this guilt?

[reachingHigher]

I don't think one session is long enough for someone to give you direction when there are so many issues. IMO. They have to just first figure out what is going on.

I don't know how good our MC is. She seemed good at validating and asking questions. She asked what a typical day was like for each of us. H has moved out 2 1/2 months ago. She asked if life was what he imagined it to be. She asked if he missed his family. And she asked what his ideal life would look like.

She didn't give us any "homework" like I'd hoped she would. She also ended the session by saying we would resolve everything whether it be reconciliation or divorce! That put me to tears. She said it so matter-of-factly!

My H said twice in the past four months he would go with me but backed out each time. I was so glad he went with me once, I wanted to make the most of it.

I think you are right, don't pressure H to go again. Are you seeing an IC?

I think you and I have H's who appreciate who we are but have just lost the spark. You should read what MrBond wrote on my thread yesterday. I was feeling so discouraged.

I think my H sees me as either a mother to be respected or a daughter to be taken care of. He doesn't see me as a hot & sexy girlfriend.

I had lost some faith in DB techniques but think I was still pursuing H in a big way. I saw some baby steps last night when I applied DB properly.

Just hang in there, SD. Keep reading. Keep posting. Other people have great advice. I just have sympathy. And lots and lots of it!!!