It's good to see you back. You got a lot of 2x4's when you were last here. and I have to say based on what we heard I am SHOCKED that you've been dark for the last 2 weeks unless there's more we don't know.

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I have a feeling I will end up just end up fading into the background for her.
What I've learned through posting and reading non stop here is that EVERYONE feels this way. and everyone believes that there's something slightly different about their S's personality that means they can't just go dark. It's hard to detach. But it's needed. They can never have the space to decide if you are smothering them...think of it like a fire. Second you'll never know unless you step back. otherwise you don't know if you're in their life because they want you to be or because you forced yourself there.

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She has had more than ample time to come to whatever conclusions she needed to come to, and obviously those don't involve me in any way minus the times that she needs something or advice.

This is you attempting to control the sitch. What would happen if you forget about August 27th? What if you just LET GO. Let go of the decision to file or not to file. Truly decided to just let go? You haven't yet.

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If something hasn't changed significantly in the next 2.5 months I'm pretty sure I will feel that I have suffered long enough.

You can make something change to end your suffering. Working on yourself.

I'm really happy that you've stopped seeing the girl. I also hope that you start seeing an IC to deal with anger and any other issues that are coming to the surface. You know you had a pattern of beginning R before you were truely healed from the last. Decide that this time will be different.