Brit45, JH52, PennyHill, BustingOut and the rest of the DB community,
Thank you so much for all your input. All of you really help me see things a bit more clearly and help guide me to stay on track. I also noticed some consistent themes from all your feedback, all your input seems right on target.
Most of my “non DB” friends haven’t read the book so understandably there feedback is much different. While I appreciate the support from my non DB friends, I just don’t think they get it, justifiably so. A lot of their input is “what feels logical” however I think my friends on this board can agree that a lot of necessary steps we need to DB revolve around outside the box thinking.
I wanted to respond to the topic of dating again. My W and I have been together a long time. Over the years she’s been consistently very physically and emotionally distant which has taken its toll on me, I guess you could say we’ve been going down the cheeseless tunnels for a long time. It’s taken it’s toll on me. It’s beaten my self respect and confidence down to the ground.
I know this sounds a bit sappy but I miss the feeling of a physical and emotional connection. Even before I met my W, I was always in long term relationships. I am not used to being alone/single. It just seems like it would be so lonely. Even though I’ve felt lonely being married to my W over the last couple years. (Gezzz, am I contradicting myself or what)
Maybe this is good for me? As tough as it might me, maybe being alone for once will help me focus on ME! Maybe this time away will help me regain my self respect and confidence. I was told this could be a long ride for me and I think I am still in the beginning stages?
Once again, all of you are so great! I will always be very thankful for all your support.
roughenough
Me(M):37 W:42 T: 14 M: 11 S: 1 D: 1 W wanted separation 5/5 Stopped living together 5/5
