I didn't know my tone was taken as "kicking someone while they are down".
I don't care anymore that my previous marriage didn't work. I cared at the time, but come to understand that person didn't want me anymore and would make my life as difficult as possible. Why would anyone want that for themself?
I'm not angry. I thought I was giving her advice that might make her husband feel a little more empowered, considering the situation.
