Why is this such a hot button with you? Every time the whole "exposure" thing comes up, you practically become unglued.
Look, I realize it's against the DB/DR catechism, but to say that "every single time, it's blown up in their face" simply isn't true. And BECAUSE it's against DB policy, we're not allowed to talk about it, so we're hardly a representative sample here, don'tchathink? I think a fairer way to put it would be to say "reasonable people disagree about this very controversial topic, but it is strictly against DB policy and it says so right here on this forum" ... or some such.
More broadly than just this one sub-topic, I am a proponent of the "more actions, less talk" school. Talk is cheap, and wayward spouses will quickly just learn to tune you out.
