Here is something else that helps me when I am down, thanks to my SIL.
Our Ws believe the grass is greener on the other side.
My SIL summed it up the best for me and said:
"The reason the grass is greener is because it is fertilized with sh!t."
We can't tell our Ws that. They are going to find it out on their own sooner or later. Let them.
I like that, I really do.
But put in a positive way, "The grass is greener where it is watered the most."
Meaning when WE work on our marriage and put LOVING ENERGY into it, it blossoms, (or gets greener).
I say "putting loving energy" into it, b/c when I hear the words "work on marriage" I know some people get turned off. They think it means putting up with things they do NOT want in their lives.
But we can all change.
Right or wrong, fair or not, the LBSer is the one who has to take that first step to change and become a better version of themself. And usually, the first 100 steps...but this is good FOR THEM so don't keep score.
To finish the analogy,
When we ignore/neglect our lawns, they turn brown and sometimes goes dormant. But They can be revived.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
