Ok, here's another question. Last night after we ate, he was pissy, and I could tell. I got up and went into the bedroom without saying anything. Should I say, like, "I'm going to hang out in the bedroom and read!" or should I just get up and go, like I did?
if you're NOT tying into his moods, you just go. if he were your child, you wouldn't cater to his bad behavior (yes, being pissy is bad behavior).
remember, YOU are happy.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
Do you guys have any other suggestions for books to read? I'd like to get the co-dependent book, but I've passed by some other suggestions and failed to write them down.
Here's some of the books recommended in retrovaille:
Getting Back Together Five Love Languages DB DR Love Must be Tough Take Back your Marriage The Intentional Family Building a Christian Marriage Courage to Love When your Marriage Hurts Marriage; A Spiritual Journey The Truth about Love Fighting for your Marriage Marriage Savers The Case Against Divorce The Secret of Staying in love Why am I afraid to Tell you who I am Why am I afraid to love Unconditional Love Forgiveness The Good Marriage Sacred Dwelling Making Love Last Forever
I haven't read all these, so I can't vouch for them.
A couple of others I read that helped me worth thru my own issues:
A Journey Called You The Courage to Trust I love you, but....I'm not In Love with You
I called a lawyer today, just to find out what my rights are, I guess. I know he was going to do the same because his mom mentioned it. I'm just waiting for them to call me back.
Like, last night, I was talking about how delicious what he made was and how grateful I was. Afterwards, we watched a show. He didn't talk at all, I didn't pressure him. I tried to make it tension-free, and laughed at the show. He sat there, and I could feel the tension. Then he lay down and said "can I change the channel?" And I said "Sure!" and then he said nothing to me so I went into the room and he came in to get his clothing for the next morning and we said good night. It's just so frustrating. I didn't act upset or angry throughout all of it, which I normally would have, so maybe that's a step for me, and I definitely didn't let him see any emotion other than upbeat, but it's SO frustrating.
Yes, it is. This is one of the hardest things you will go through.
Rather than sitting with a silent H watching a movie and feeling uncomfortable, you would feel better leaving, even if it's to go to the grocery store, book store, or just a walk in a park.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
He keeps saying that he doesn't "feel" the same way about me. He doesn't think he "feels" the way he needs to be feeling towards someone to who he is married. What does this mean?!
