Thanks to all of you!! I told S18 that you said Congratulations too!
I have to say that it feels really good, the high road is so much nicer. I am not doing anything out of spite, although at times he may think so. I am honestly doing what is best for the boys and I at all times, regardless of him or his decisions. I am no longer worried about his reaction or his decisions. They are not my business.
For a while it was bothering me that he was spreading lies about me, mainly in the neighborhood but also outside of it. I have lived here for 18 years and many of the neighbors not only stopped talking to me but stopped making eye contact. They are fine with him when he is here which is only 2 days out of the month now.
At first I really let it bother me, and then I realized that I don't care. I don't care about them or their opinions. If they are going to blindly listen to this man, that is their prerogative. I am living my life and they have nothing to do with it, so I don't give it energy.
I was awarded exclusive rights to the home for now, but once we get to equitable distribution I have decided that I really want to sell both of our homes and the boat, to keep it as clean as possible. I don't want to have that tying us together after the divorce is final. I want to be able to move on with my life and not have that lingering.
He has been texting silly things, and emailing me work related items the past 2 days. I have not responded to any of them. He is giving me tips for my business but he has no ownership so it is truly a tactic.
S18 is leaving for the shore for the week with his friends tomorrow. It will just be S15 and I which will be fun. He has to work tomorrow, so I will go to the gym (zumba class with my girlfriends) and do some cleaning, etc.
When he gets off work at 4 we are heading to my fathers to see him for his bday and fathers day. Nothing like some time with family at the beach S15 will see STBX on Sunday afternoon/evening. So I may just take myself to a movie
