This is a topic I couldn't agree more with, when my sitch started I was so concerned about my W's feelings and did not concentrate on all five of my girls. In short in my mind if I could get her back my kids would follow suit, instead I strained my relationship with my girls and its cost me bigtime. now with that being said my ex told me later after the D was final, that I should have know the way to win her back was through our children. I though about it for a long time and she has a point at least in our sitch. So LITB I agree about the fear factor.....This is why its important for you to journal, I mean your going on two years , and things have turned around for you after a lot of soul searching. People on this board need to heed advice from others who have been in the trenches, we all have the same emotions whether male or female and the WAS is the same as well. So my friend GOD Speed and please make this journey your taking count, also keep us informed.
