so he agreed to it even though you said he felt as if he was betraying ow?

i'm laughing - because your last post gave NO indication that that was happening

yes bugsy is always on the mark.

i can't say i'm not thinking about it - can't say it hasn't crossed my mind that it would be a very good way of letting him know that don't care about ow and she's irrelevant in this.

frankly i'm not thinking about it in terms of "getting him back" at all - it's just practical, because i'm not willing to have an affair while we are still married, no matter how much he says that he wants an emotional divorce etc

as bugs put it, it might be fun

but i'm also thinking about what KD said and brit.
am i detached enough to do this - i'll see how i feel over this trip and when i get back

frankly i'm thinking it could break the ice big time - there's so much pent up energy between us

then i think - allow allow allow - let this just happen without me pushing it. it occurred to me that i could just hint at my frustration and wait and see what the does with it.

at the end of that phone call he said twice - call if you need anything else. ha ha - maybe i'll call him someday and say this is what i need!!

i'm lightening up here - i'm tired of things being so heavy!!

zig


me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"