Thanks for your advice. The cost of the db coach aint cheap! I will have to figure that one out. I have read a few of your earlier posts because I was interested in your story. I am glad things turned around for you. My husband is not affectionate at all but he is still in the home and still sleeps in the same bed albeit as far from me as possible-when he used to sleep smack dab in the middle.
Another problem is the way he treats the kids. My daughter who is almost 22, left at age 18 for 1 1/2 years mostly because of him because he can be very harsh. And because my husband and I fought constantly. It was always a fight because he was bossy or rude and it had to be his way.
My S18, flunked his road test for driving and my husband calls him a screw up. He flunked the parking bit. But I didn't yell because you only get 1 chance and I kinda felt bad for him. My husband told me later that he yelled at my son but didn't want to talk about it. He told me I should have used an old car we had instead of our van so it was partly my fault. Nevermind that he didn't tell me ahead of time to do that. It needed tabs and he also told me the night before to wait and get the tabs on friday even though he knew the test was wednesday. He told me when we were in bed but claims he doesn't remember and maybe not. His memory stinks lately.
Both my sons have ADD the oldest from the 1st marriage is out of the house, the youngest is not graduating this year because he does lousy in school, hates it. My husband thinks his three kids are losers. I Tell them they are NOT! They are not done yet. They are not drinkers or on drugs or loose morally. He looks at guys from work whose kids are at MIT or UofM. My one daughter is at U of M local campus and thats where my husband went. She is struggling to decide on a career but works hard and is a good student. He wants her to go to the main campus but she didnt get in there so he thinks she did it on purpose. I dont think so. My other daughter goes to Baker and is a good student but he thinks about how she went away and just left us a note and didn't tell us where she was for a while. The kids are not that close to him because he doesn't make an effort with them.
Today I am feeling a little stronger. Our neigbor came over the other day and told me he noticed my daughers hub cap came off and that he saw one around the block that looked like it might be hers in front of someones house. My daughter went and found it and it was hers. When people treat me nice like this I think to myself "Why can't my husband have regard for us like that? To behave or act in a way that shows he has regard for me and the kids?" I know I guess I shouldn't do that, it only frustrates me.
