I worked an hour on providing additional information to your questions and responses. My computer glitched and rebooted and I lost all my work. Maybe there was a reason for that.
Since then, I got off the phone with a man in our Christian group who is also married to one of W's dear friends. I read him my post and your answer, along with the other answers received. He thought you were right on point. He provided additional help which greatly helped my understand the issue.
AS OF NOW, I WILL NOT CONTACT THE OM, even though I desperately feel a NEED to do it. The responses received on this website helps bring me back to reality when I need it the most, at just the right time.
I just reread every response and EVERY one is right on. Thanks! I am seeing a little clearer right now....