Lost

[LostIn407]

Just work on accepting their is nothing you can do directly to change the situation and don't even worry about the OM. It is just a phase.

I concentrated so much on the OM and what was he doing that I wasn't able to do that I drove myself crazy and it affected my life.

Here I was:
successful
father to 3 beautiful girls
devoted husband and provider
high moral standards

Here is who he is:
unemployed until my W found him a job
lives at home with his mama at 31
criminal with past and pending charges

It wasn't until I started to better ME that I began to heal. I stopped doing what I thought the W found to be attractive or desirable and started to do what I wanted to do.

This isn't YOU vs OM. Understand that. It is OLD YOU vs NEW YOU.

I am not expert on this. I don't know if my W will ever want to try to work on us again. The only thing I know is that I won't give up. It starts with me. The man leads in a dance. I am working on me so I can take that first step.