MAYBE/MAYBE but only IF YOU HAD KNOWN...and maybe she didn't look so good or they wanted to make a point about military families or single dads or whatever...This is NOT a reason for her to be upset at YOU. Do not take any responsibility for this. Period.
I'm not taking responsibility for it, and I don't think W was looking to pin it on me.
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Not like you intentionally got them to print the pic. And if your W wants to think that, nothing you can do about it. And if she figures it depicts her as a bad mom, that is HER thought... maybe a dose of reality...
I agree...and I think that is what happened.
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was she at all happy that her kids were on a cover OR you were? Or was it all about her not being in it?
I don't think she was happy at all - it was all about her not being in it. I did realize this at the time she was telling me about it, but I chose not to point it out.
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And PLEASE dont' tell her the Navy has a hiring freeze. Why tell her discouraging stuff before she even starts looking?
IMO, I would Say nothing that isn't positive about the job market.
You are giving her yet another reason to not even TRY in her life.And to feel artificially trapped and she'll see it as YOUR FAULT, again...
She can get A JOB...as far as a career? I don't know, I'm having trouble myself. Join the club!
But don't feed into her fears b/c these are what lead her to feel anger at YOU...
Agree - and I while I was trying to be factual/realistic/helpful, I certainly wasn't helping her. I should be encouraging her - who knows, maybe she just wants to get a job and stick around and start working on our M. No idea what she's thinking right now.
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The job market being UNFAIR TO HER b/c she got to take 7 years off...
Jesus, do you see how twisted that is?
EVERY woman I know would be grateful for the time they got with their children...and would gladly sacrifice the career steps to do it.
I know I did.
Yeah...I feel the same way. I know in hindsight, 30 years from now I'm not going to give a crap about what I did at work. But the time I spent with my kids will still matter. They're only 6 and 3 right now, but I already wish that I had the chance to spend more time with them when they were really little. I did two 6 month deployments and missed so many firsts for both of them. They're never going to get any younger. W doesn't seem to see things this way.
They are both wonderful, smart, happy, and well-mannered kids...and W has absolutely played the largest role in making them that way. But for whatever reason, she doesn't see that as an accomplishment. I see it as infinitely more important than anything I've ever done at work.
I guess the grass is always greener on the other side...
BITS M: 35 W: 35 T14, M11 D9, S6 ILYBINILY: June 09 Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11 W came home: 3/17/11 EE: July 2012 Dropped the rope: Oct 2012 Piecing: April 2013 Not piecing: April 2014 Stuck.
