Kimmerz, I'm sorry to see that things haven't gone well in the area of the girls and their father. I can see where they are hesitant to speak to him about their concerns. It's good that your girls are talking to you about their concerns. Yes, bedwetting is a sign of emotional distress and there are many children who are going through this when something like a divorce, death of a family member or another stressful situation is going on in their lives. Your daughter is very stressed about the situation and doesn't know how to voice her fears/feelings.
The mlcer will not take on the blame for anything that they have said or done wrong...it is always the lbs who creates the situation. Again, passive-aggressive behavior at its finest.
As to whether the ow is pumping ideas into your h's head. She could be fueling the fire. They do tend to latch on to any opportunity to feed the embers that are already there. Although, in mlc, many times, the mlcers doesn't need any help when it comes to the things going on in his head, especially when it comes to the negative thoughts he has about us and the relationship.
Kimmerz, I know that you've attempted to speak to him about various issues and have been hitting a brick wall. You can't rationalize w/him...time to step back and try to find a way to help your daughters on your own...it's not going to sink in w/your h and he's not going to listen. I'm very sorry that he won't.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
