Went to see my IC today. Sounds like I have some serious issues which have added to the relationship break down. Being Mr Nice Guy not being the least of them. If this is so, how do I know whether this marriage is actually worth fighting for? I know I don't want to divorce but why am I clinging onto a reality that doesn't exist any more? Is this where I want to get to? Do you have to totally give up/let go before things can progress? Or do you have to keep a tiny bit of hope alive whilst almost completely letting go?
The IC has made me have to take begin taking stock of everything I believe in and now I've realised that I can now see that she is going through the same process. The difference being that her taking stock involved (I think)having a MLC and detaching from me in order to pursue a fantasy world and mine involves trying to grow as a person with or without her in my life. How is it possible to keep it all together when both people are so in flux?
