I agree with Brit45, that it's a little early to be looking at dating again. It may be acting on the rebound and if you were doing it subconciously to illicit a reaction from your WAW, then you would not be having an honest relationship with the new person and that would hurt your integrity.
I suspect your WAW was feeling there needed to be changes in your relationship and is very confused at the moment as to where those changes need to come from. She may not recognise yet that she too is responsible for changes to be made and perhaps she thought she was giving YOU a wake up call by asking for a seperation. Now you "appear" to be doing just fine and she isn't and therefore she is probably second guessing herself as to your feelings to her. But still keep doing the detachment as it is clearly making her think!
I think rather than looking to other relationships, you need to find the relationship within yourself. I know I no longer know who I am any more, I have been a wife and mother for so long and I am still trying to work out what I actually want in life. I am confident once I know what I want, I will strive to achieve it, but it's happening upon it first. Do things you've always thought "one day I will...." Hopefully, then there will be fresh things to discover about each other. But immersing yourself into other relationships that will need to be taboo subjects if you do R, will leave little for you to share with WAW in the future.
