So let's remember again why I miss being a part of H's family.
MIL came this morning to pick up the dog. She has the day off and wanted to let mine play with hers in their massive back garden.
Remember shovel-gate of mid May? I told him I was going to buy my own and he said don't be silly and I said no really it's fine. And then he brought me one from his mom while he was helping GF move?
Well I keep forgetting to give it to him to bring to MIL so I put it next to the front door. When she came over, we talked, we laughed, it was good.
Then I said oh and do you want to take this (point at shovel) Her: Do I? (as if i was offering a bag of dirt) Me: It's yours I keep forgetting to give it to h. [if looks could kill fellow DBers I would not be alive to type these words] Her: oh is it....see I don't know. H just takes things and then they show back up. When was this? (she's trying to lighten the mood but I'm sitting there thinking is she upset at him or upset at the fact he loaned it to me? He's made mention that she is sometimes a bit upset about the amount he's involved with me) Me: Um I don't know back when he helped GF (I even used her name GO ME) move. I'm sure he told you because he said that you'd said Make sure you bring it back because FIL will miss it. Her: oh yes he would. okay right then I shall take it.
INTEGRITY PEOPLE!!!! This man constantly tells people what they want to hear. He knows she would have said why doesn't Brit buy her own shovel. Which Brit said the same damn thing. And I bet he never mentioned any of this to GF because it's all too weird. That he would bring me a shovel he borrowed from his mom even though I didn't ask for it. All I want is someone transparent who doesn't lie or hide things because he thinks it's fine but they'll be upset.
He told me (recently) that when we met he was still going over to ex-GF's and mowing her lawn without telling me because I'd said she owned the house not him, she should be taking care of his own lawn. It just made me feel like I never knew him. When he said this I said "Great now I'm the [ex-GFs name]"
In other news his ebay password is saved on the "family computer" and I when i opened the page I saw his watch list. I know I know. Anyway...he's bought home ware type things. They were all themed or had to do with HER interests. I literally LOL'd. Not only is this man not focusing on him, he's completely immersing himself in her. The first time I saw his ebay was mid April. He was watching a few tshirts and wall art that were all his interests. And he'd bought her a key chain. But now everything is obviously her...he's never even had a passing interest in this stuff.
His mom remarked on how amazing I looked. And part of me in an evil way can't wait for shovel gate to explode in his face.
I texted him to remove my cc from his paypal so I can create my own that I was selling some clothes. He replied, said he did and congrats on going down so many sizes. I just said thanks.
