People will have various opinions on this. but I will say after a month and a half there is absolutely no way you are ready to date again.
Right now you are hurt, disillusioned, and still in love with your wife. In fact you posted on my thread "do WAS was their S back after they've found someone" So is part of you wanting to date because you think that will get your W back? If so you'll be using that person you date.
IMO, it's a very very dangerous game. Even after I had a Change of Heart it was horribly confusing because I had developed feelings for the coworker I was seeing. He wanted to wait until things calmed down in my sitch (ie H moved out. because he'd been through a long D where they sep, rec, sep) The point is if you bring someone new into it...it's very easy to idealise this new clean empty slate.
And it's not fair to whoever you bring into it. You're not ready. You run the risk of rebound...losing yourself in them...never doing the work to become a better partner because you're in honeymoon stage and the infatuation makes it seem like it's perfect.
Not to mention, if you are doing it in hopes that your W will go oh my gosh he's moved on...I have to go see what that's about. It's manipulation and game playing and the worst kind because you're using some innocent person. Is that who you want to be.
I dated straight after and I regretted it. And I look back and what I should I have asked myself...and what you should have asked yourself is WHY do you want to date? WHAT do you think it will give or bring to your life?
Think really really hard about those things...what is it that you think dating will give you...and then address those issues within you.
I don't know how old you are but at 34 I'm finally understanding the role I've let men play in my self-esteem, my self-worth, my happiness, and my life fulfillment and I'm finally for the first time doing that for myself and it's better than any feeling I've ever had before.
