Husband had affair and I believe is in MLC

[25yearsmlc]

Rachael,

I sense growth trying to surface...try to compartmenatlize the pain to let yourself gain some insights and improve. We have all been there do don't feel judged.

if it's at all possible (and it probably IS)

hire a DB coach.

The 3 session deal isn't bad when compared it to the t's or mc's we saw here.

I did a lot of things to stay married, including hiring a DB coach, coming here almost daily,

seeing a good t, taking meds, working out and all the GAL things I did.

If I could only see or hire one professional, it'd have been the DB COACH I had.

She was a Godsend for me and we had about 15 sessions in all. So yeah, I'm a fan. Her advice was very specific, which I treasured. She also gave me little mantras b/c I recall taking copious notes when we'd speak. (She retired but I know other coaches get rave reviews too.)

I don't think I ever took notes with any mc's or t's, and I've seen some good ones.

Food for thought.

I have a feeling you are going to love yourself a lot more when you get to the other side of this. And that can radiate...

Check out that workshop too, Essential Experience. It's on the east coast so maybe it's not doable. But you'd get a real paradigm shift, which I suspect you need. I flew in from Alaska to do it, so for me the distance was so well worth it...

Hang in there.